30 Going on 13: The Eldest Daughter Holiday Survival Kit

You have a 401(k), a skincare routine and a therapist. And yet one look from your mom across the Thanksgiving table and you're 13 years old, apologizing for something you didn't do. Cute. Let's fix that.

FREE live masterclass · Sunday, Nov 22 · 12 PM ET · 60 minutes

Save My Seat Before I Overthink It

Let’s set the scene. 🎬

You walk into your family’s house a fully functioning adult. Within 10 minutes:

You’re refilling drinks nobody asked you to refill
You’ve read the energy of every single person in the room
You’ve made a mental note that Dad’s “fine” is not actually fine
You’ve smoothed over your brother’s comment before anyone else noticed it
And you’re nodding along to Aunt Linda’s opinions like a bobblehead with a master’s degree

Then you drive home exhausted, slightly resentful, maybe crying a little, thinking:

“What the heck... Who WAS that??? Because that was not the woman I worked so hard to become.”

Girl. I know. And no, you didn’t lose your progress. You just walked into the building where your old programming lives. 🏠

SAVE MY SPOT

Pick your fighter: which eldest daughter is coming to Thanksgiving?

🕊️ The Peacekeeper

Has never once let a dinner conversation get past the word “politics.” Basically human Switzerland, with a stress headache.

🛠️ The Fixer

Solving her sister’s marriage between the rolls and the pie. Nobody asked. She’s still right, though.

👩‍👧 The Third Parent

Fed the kids, found the charger, booked everyone’s flights, and hasn’t sat down since 2009.

📋 The Responsible One

Hosting, cooking, cleaning AND insisting she’s “fine.” (She’s not fine. Her jaw has been clenched since Tuesday.)

🫥 The Shrinker

Agrees with everything, says nothing, and saves all her real opinions for the drive home.

Spoiler: you’re probably a combo platter. 🍽️

Why you turn 13 at the front door (it’s not you, it’s your nervous system)

Here’s the thing nobody told you.

When you were little, you figured out that being helpful, easy, quiet or “the good one” was how you stayed safe and loved. It worked. That’s the part we forget.

Your nervous system took notes. Very detailed notes.

So now, decades later, you walk into that house and it smells like the same candle. Your mom uses that one tone. You sit on the same couch. And your body goes, “Oh, I know this place. Time to be 13!”

It doesn’t care that you have a career, a mortgage and a podcast queue full of self-help. It’s just doing its job, which is keeping you safe the only way it knows how.

The good news? It can learn something new. And we’re starting before the holidays.

SAVE MY SPOT

In this free 60-minute masterclass, we’re going to:

Name your role (Peacekeeper? Fixer? Third Parent?) and what it’s been quietly costing you
Talk about why your body turns you back into a teenager at the front door, so you can stop blaming yourself for it
Build your Holiday Game Plan: your boundaries, your exit strategy, and what to actually say when someone asks why you’re “still single”
Practice grounding tools you can use in the car, at the dinner table, and yes, in the bathroom. Some of the best healing happens next to the decorative hand towels nobody’s allowed to use.
End with a 10-minute sound bath, because when was the last time anyone took care of YOU?

Plus: emotional backup for the whole week 📱

Show up live and you’ll get into our private Telegram group from Sunday, Nov 22 to Sunday, Nov 29, so you’re not white-knuckling Thanksgiving alone. Daily check-ins. Real-time support. Bathroom SOS texts fully encouraged.

Think of it as the group chat you actually WANT to be in. (Unlike the family one, which has 47 unread messages about who’s bringing ice.)

SAVE MY SPOT

This is for you if:

You’ve said yes when every cell in your body screamed HELL NO
You’re the family’s unpaid manager, therapist, event planner and tech support
You already have a stomachache thinking about Thanksgiving
You’re ready to show up as YOU, even in your childhood kitchen

This is NOT for you if:

You’re hoping I’ll teach you how to fix your family (babe, we are retiring from fixing)
You’d rather do this exactly the same way and hope it magically feels different this year

Hi, I’m Sav, a recovering eldest daughter 👋

I’ve been the Fixer, the Peacekeeper and the Responsible One. So trust me, I get it.

Now I help eldest daughters regulate their nervous systems, drop the guilt and finally choose themselves, with breathwork, real talk and a whole lot of permission.

I come by this work honestly: a BS in Psychology (clinical neuropsychology), a Master’s in Acupuncture, plus certifications in Reiki and sound healing. So I’ve spent my whole career learning how the body holds stress, and how to help it finally let go.

I’m loving, but I’m not going to sugarcoat it. You’ve had enough people tiptoeing around you. I’m going to tell you the truth and then hand you a tool.

SAVE MY SPOT

Event details

📅 When: Sunday, November 22, 2026

⏰ Time: 12 PM ET / 9 AM PT

💻 Where: Live on Zoom (link sent to your inbox)

💸 Cost: Free. Zero dollars. Spend that money on the good wine instead.

🎧 Can’t make it live? Sign up anyway. The replay is available for 48 hours.

FAQ

Wait, is this actually free?

Yes. No credit card, no catch, no sneaky upsell at checkout. Just you, me and a sound bath.

Do I have to be on camera?

Absolutely not. Camera off, hiding in your car, lying on your bedroom floor in sweatpants. All welcome. Zero judgment.

What if I’m not technically the oldest?

If you’re the one everyone calls when something breaks, you’re an honorary eldest daughter. Welcome. Sorry. Welcome.

What do I need for the sound bath?

Somewhere comfy, headphones if you have them, and permission to do absolutely nothing for a whole 10 minutes. (I know. Scary.)

Will there be a replay?

Yes, for 48 hours. But the Telegram group and live support are for the girls who show up live, so if you can make it, be there. 💛

This year, walk in as the grown woman you are.

Not the 13-year-old who’s managing everyone’s feelings and quietly dying inside.